Walk the aisle.....
Marriage is lurking around the corner. Sep or Oct around. Strangely, no butterflies in my stomach instead, a serene calm has descended in my life. A storm in waiting??
Perhaps, it’s the sign of good times ahead. With all the ball-breaking, nut-cracking wild indulgences coming to an end, Sundays will no longer be seen in the afternoons with a pounding head, instead, I might be at the grocer’s at 7 am, scratching my butt and yawning like a disoriented nincompoop. I can be precise at guessing the cost for a round trip to London, but I have no clue how much a cauliflower costs?? I will be seriously domesticated, and yet, I have no flashes of trepidation!! Perhaps it’s the culmination of 7 years of courtship that’s depriving me the second thoughts, or maybe because I know her too well to fear a drastic change that might be upsetting.
Having said this, I must add that men the world over, have been more creative in nay saying marriages than have truly appreciated it. Guess it’s the fear of choking out choice that these people remain unmarried. Someone so eloquently once said, “It isn't tying himself to one woman that a man dreads when he thinks of marrying, it's separating himself from all the others.”
8 out of 10 people I know who willfully remain bachelors attribute the above reason, although you can never catch them confessing this. But it’s the mind over ‘matter’ that has no control… if you know what I mean??
To get married is somehow the most confident venture mankind has shown no fear of failure, yet it is the most complicated setup of adjustments between two people to coexist mainly for more often than not, to leave a progeny behind. In between, all is incidental.
I believe in marriages, as billions of successful ancestors have, for a billion flies cant be wrong sitting on shit all day!!!
Perhaps, it’s the sign of good times ahead. With all the ball-breaking, nut-cracking wild indulgences coming to an end, Sundays will no longer be seen in the afternoons with a pounding head, instead, I might be at the grocer’s at 7 am, scratching my butt and yawning like a disoriented nincompoop. I can be precise at guessing the cost for a round trip to London, but I have no clue how much a cauliflower costs?? I will be seriously domesticated, and yet, I have no flashes of trepidation!! Perhaps it’s the culmination of 7 years of courtship that’s depriving me the second thoughts, or maybe because I know her too well to fear a drastic change that might be upsetting.
Having said this, I must add that men the world over, have been more creative in nay saying marriages than have truly appreciated it. Guess it’s the fear of choking out choice that these people remain unmarried. Someone so eloquently once said, “It isn't tying himself to one woman that a man dreads when he thinks of marrying, it's separating himself from all the others.”
8 out of 10 people I know who willfully remain bachelors attribute the above reason, although you can never catch them confessing this. But it’s the mind over ‘matter’ that has no control… if you know what I mean??
To get married is somehow the most confident venture mankind has shown no fear of failure, yet it is the most complicated setup of adjustments between two people to coexist mainly for more often than not, to leave a progeny behind. In between, all is incidental.
I believe in marriages, as billions of successful ancestors have, for a billion flies cant be wrong sitting on shit all day!!!
posted by Susheel Nair at 9:55 PM
5 Comments:
for someone who has resigned himself to the noose, i must say you write quite eloquently :-)
The last time I heard someone vouch for the knot with such yearning I was sitting beside Tom Cruise when he flew that 16 F upside down to show his pal the F 16 the way it should be seen.Top Gun shtyle!
The butterflies probably grew weary in the 7 years and if the stomach is'nt itching at 7, the butterflies surely must be.
This is progression my friend from the fairy tale.Its true Love grows on you.You fall in Love, then you just "simply" love.Whatever be the reason for Love, theres no denying......................"HOPE... keeps us alive"
May the Force go with You!
Good Luck Sushil!!!
Motty Philip
Hi Motty
Thanx fr the comment. Hv bn seeing this person for over 6 years, and although we are poles apart in our thought process, the love of art and arty things, strike a chord of incredible wave length between us, that neither a butterfly nor a bulldozer can dissipate.
anyways, good to have you around here and hope to see your comments more often.
Susheel
Hi Motty
Thanx fr the comment. Hv bn seeing this person for over 6 years, and although we are poles apart in our thought process, the love of art and arty things, strike a chord of incredible wave length between us, that neither a butterfly nor a bulldozer can dissipate.
anyways, good to have you around here and hope to see your comments more often.
Susheel
Whoa, thats a cool way to feel 'bout man.... actually i was pretty concerned as to how u gonna handle it. but after reading your note on marriage ( & if it is tru.... ) then its cool man. u'll have fun.
being married is gonna b totally different from what u've experienced all these years. It requires lil' adjustments here & there, respect each others space. If possible both u & kaps should've separate loos ( it seriously makes a world of diff man ) and never forget to romance and laugh together till the very end.
And the most important thing u have to remember is that, the relationship u guys share can be the greatest love story ever. But the most difficult year in a married life is the first year. thats when both u guys will experience the unknown side of each other. live thru it with a sense of humour and then its gonna be cool.
Have Fun Dude. but always remember to tread the first year with lot of care and sense of humour. this is 4 both u guys.
Adios Amigo
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